By Paul Davis Looks aren’t everything. If you don’t have it going on outwardly, be encouraged. There are other things you can do to up the ante and increase your value to the opposite sex. 1. Respect yourself and others individuality. Self-respect is the foundation of everything. Begin with yourself. As you treat yourself, so will the rest of the world. Be respecting of yourself and everyone else will follow. Remember you reap what you sow. Therefore if you want respect, give others the same. 2. Be fun and playful. Life is too short to be excessively serious. Lighten up and have some fun. People need to be more playful and enjoy life. Get rid of heaviness and put a smile on your face. A simply smile will greatly enhance your personal appearance. Smiling is contagious and lights up a room. Be playful and childlike. Life becomes sweeter when you do and people are naturally drawn to you. 3. Have a sense of humor. Laughter lightens the soul and makes you inwardly whole. Laughter is empowering and intoxicating. It is better than any drug known to man and it doesnt cost anything. Dont take yourself so seriously. See the humorous side of everything. 4. Be complimentary. Make your man feel he is larger than life when hes with you. Men are like God, they enjoy being praised. The more you praise, dote on, and affirm them the greater they become. Compliments embolden a man to be a man and live up to your expectations. 5. Get your life and finances in order. Men like women who have themselves and their lives together. Life is complicated enough as it is without having a lady entering the picture and becoming an additional liability. Strategically purpose to get your life and finances in order. Be an asset in every way to a man. Become his most valuable player. 6. Make an unforgettable home. A man can have a house, but a womans touch makes it a home. Men desire a womans loving touch and domestic skill on the home front. Dont underestimate the value of a domesticated woman. 7. Cook like a chef. Women who can cook well endear men. After all, be reason of survival, we all must eat three meals a day. Sadly many men dont eat properly anymore in this fast paced day and age. A lovely candlelight meal is a marvelous way to break the ice and have some meaningful conversation. 8. Give an irresistible massage. Work weary men full of tension like to receive expressions of affection. A massage is a particular favorite, which will not be forgotten. Guys who exercise in the gym often have tight muscles that would benefit from a good massage. 9. Always encourage, uplift, and speak kindly. Words are an often forgotten love language that sets the spirit of a relationship. Words determine the atmosphere throughout an interaction. Wild and unruly women who cannot rule their tongue are a big turnoff. A woman with class and kindness speaks like a princess. Hence she will be rewarded and treated like one for her bridled speech. A man wants a lady he can take out on the town and be proud of. Loose lips will quickly deplete any mans confidence in a woman. If you shout and talk like a fishermans wife, it is highly unlikely you will get asked out to fancy places. Get a grip on your tongue and purify your heart. From the overflow of the heart comes the words of the mouth. 10. Be helpful and offer to assist however you can. Guys like helpful girls who lighten their load and dont add to it. Fair weather friends are many. A lady who can prove to be helpful will quickly distinguish herself from the rest of the crowd. 11. Listen attentively and wholeheartedly. Women often play the drama queen or victim to manipulate situations. This posturing doesnt enable them to communicate well. Listening is the key to communication. The women who can sincerely listen with their heart and be fully present when a man is talking, will quickly go to the top of the list when he needs someone he can count on. 12. Provide sympathy and tenderness. Make your man feel safe and loved unconditionally. It will enable him to be honest and transparent with you. Rough women arent extremely popular with guys. A man has his parents to tell him what he ought to and should be doing. He needs a lady to kindly and sympathetically encourage him en route to his destination. 13. Be quiet, gentle, and elegant. If in doubt, dont be quick to speak out. The women who holds her tongue when not knowing what to say appears to be wise. You learn more when you listen. Listening opens the door for additional knowledge and insight. A gentle woman will walk and speak softly. This will never be thought of as weakness by men. On the contrary, your ability to harness and manage your emotions will be considered a great strength. 14. Be wise and able to provide good advice when called upon. The woman with a pleasant disposition who listens and carries herself well, opens the door for her man to talk to her. When he does open up and ask you for your advice, be prepared to give it. 15. Live your own dreams and be fulfilled. A person who is living their dreams is passionate and fulfilled. This adds to the power of your presence. Since so few people do live their dreams, you will thereby create an insatiable curiosity by doing so. 16. Be happy by yourself and impart happiness everywhere you go. Happiness is an inside job. It is not found in a person or thing. The hidden treasure of happiness is buried deep within your own heart. Cultivate and develop it daily. Once you have possessed it, kindly give it away and thereby multiply it everywhere you go. 17. Give the gift of quality time. Time is our most precious commodity. Giving people your time in a quality way and fashion will endear them to you. 18. Be their cheerleader and take interest in their profession. Everybody needs encouragement and praise for accomplishment. Provide that and take an interest in your mans profession. By doing so you will also captivate him as a person. 19. Honor, visit, and enjoy their family. When you take an interest in a person, equally regard and get to know their family also. In doing so, you will draw near and become closer to them. 20. Discover their hobbies and get involved. Everyone has hobbies and interests. Find out what they are and get involved. As you do, you will be seen as someone who understands and is enjoyable to be with. 21. Dress and carry yourself well. Outward appearance can be improved by how we dress and physically carry ourselves. Despite your physique, which I urge you to properly care for, you can dress stylishly and elegantly. Keep your head up and walk like a model. Walk like you own the place and people will begin to treat you like you do. 22. Provide intellectual stimulation. Have an active and inquisitive mind. Ask questions and probe for further information. People like good, provocative conversation. Those who ask questions nobody else does get the interview and are privileged to go deeper into a persons soul. 23. Don’t complain or criticize others. Positive people possess the power of presence. Don’t lose it to entertain criticisms. If you can’t say something nice and add to a person, say nothing at all. If you gossip about someone, you send a message to your man that he is next to be gossiped about. 24. Dont stress and burden him with your problems. Life is a celebration, not an opportunity to perplex about problems and devastation. Be proactive and deal with your own problems. Nobody wants to have your stress and burdens added to their lives. 25. Be secure and remain emotionally detached. Never adversely react to undesirable decisions or situations beyond your control. Be your personal best and forget about the rest. Cultivate inner contentment and allow people to be free. Love them unconditionally and be willing to let them leave if this seemingly will make them happy. By doing so you remove the urge and tendency to manipulate. Thereafter you will discover true freedom and inner satisfaction, after which you will begin to celebrate yourself and become unstoppable. 26. Be authentic and true to yourself. Never compromise your identity. Identity is your destiny. Who you are as a person should never be reworked or changed so as to appeal to a guy. Be yourself and if he doesnt like it, find someone else. Guys like women who are authentic, leaders and not followers. 27. Be spiritually in touch. Spirituality will add to you an additional ingredient and intangible power that will enhance any interaction. As you become more spiritually in touch, your fears will disintegrate and you will authenticate your person. Connecting with your Creator imparts supernatural life, which no mortal can resist. 28. Be congruent, confident, and assertive. Inner confidence is outwardly communicated. Be inwardly congruent and confident. If you need to integrate some areas of your life and get it together, consult a life coach. Once you are congruent and confident you will know who you are and what you want. Thereafter you shall assert yourself naturally. Guys like women who know what they want and arent afraid to say so. 29. Be daring and willing to take risks. Boldness many times is the bridge to take you over into your dreams relationally and professionally, without which you will remain forever stranded on the shore of wishful thinking. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If you dont take chances, you wont make advances. Be willing to fall forward. Life is a learning experience. Get out there and make some things happen. You will be glad you did. The only things you regret in life is that which you dont do. 30. Dont be a doormat. Never allow a guy to mistreat you. Remember the necessity to respect yourself. That means you dont let a guy take advantage of your sexually or any other way. Just because you are gifted and giving does not give any guy a license to take advantage of you and misuse your good graces. Beware of the proverbial user who is just a taker and not a giver. 31. Set proper boundaries and perimeters in place. A princess full of elegance sets proper boundaries, guidelines, and perimeters in place. Her interaction with others, men specifically, is carefully monitored and planned. She does not allow herself to be jeopardized. Every princess has a king to whom she hearkens and listens. Ladies, perhaps this will be your father or grandfather. Someone who cares about you and can give you fatherly advice. A womans mother can also be a refuge and source of strength when dealing with the opposite sex. Nevertheless you draft up your own boundaries, guidelines, and restraints. Once you do, never deviate from them. This makes you more valuable and desirable. Any woman can play the tramp and just go with the flow. A princess governs the show. 32. Know how to say no without feeling guilty. Say no without feeling guilty. Your no does not need to be followed by an explanation, nor does it require elaboration as to why. A man must respect your no, or he must go. 33. Refuse to be like everybody else. Dont you ever conform to the norm. Break the mold, set the trends, and be a unique gem. You were born an original. Dont die a copy. 34. Be a person of conviction. In our day many people cant commit to what they believe and choose to play everything as relative. A woman who has her own convictions is attractive and desirable. 35. Make a man earn your trust. Dont blindly trust a guy without having sufficient time to test and prove him. A mans word is his worth. Ask around and find out information about him. Do your homework. Dont be gullible and get burned. Use some discretion. Dont prematurely give your heart away and commit to someone who you know nothing about. Never blindly believe everything you are told. Let time prevail and tell the totality of the story. Actions still speak louder than words. 36. Make a man prove his integrity, loyalty, and commitment. If a man is in hot pursuit after you and wants to win you, make him prove his integrity and commit. Make him know you arent just another conquest or catch. Tell him your expectations and what you expect of him if he is to have any place in your life. 37. Dont give away the milk for free until he first buys the cow. Guys dont commit to and marry girls her are loose as a goose. Dont give the milk for free ladies if you want him to buy the cow. There is nothing special about sleeping around. No wed no bed. No ringy no dingy. If he really loves you, he can put a ring on your finger and marry you before he samples the goods. 38. Rule your emotions, rather than be ruled by them. Dont let your emotions get the best of you. Use your head, which will keep you from being misled by your heart. Harness and control your emotions before they lead you astray. Be wise and diligent. 39. Celebrate yourself No matter what anybody does or says, you continue to love yourself. Celebrate you for who you are, a precious princess created in the image of Almighty God. Throw a party in your honor and rejoice! 40. Dance your way to your destiny. Joy and success is contagious. Regardless of how you feel on the inside, be proactive on the outside. Let your face shine like the morning sun in all of its splendor. Let your joy and expectancy, pull you into your destiny. Faith is a might force which will cause you to flourish. Believe your heavenly Father to complete the good work He has began in you. Put these 40 practices to use and become an unforgettable woman no matter how you look. Paul Davis is a life purpose and love coach (professional & relational), worldwide minister, change master, and FL real estate agent. Paul is the author of several books including Breakthrough for a Broken Heart; Adultery: 101 Reasons Not to Cheat; Are You Ready for True Love; Stop Lusting & Start Living; Waves of God; Supernatural Fire; Poems that Propel the Planet; and God vs. Religion. Paul’s compassion for people & passion to travel has taken him to over 50 countries of the world where he has had a tremendous impact. Paul has served in many war-torn, impoverished and tsunami stricken regions of the earth. His Dream-Maker Inc. is building dreams, breaking limitations & reviving nations. Paul’s Breakthrough Seminars inspire, revive, awaken, impregnate with purpose, impart the fire of desire, catapult people into a new level of self-awareness, facilitate destiny discovery and dream fulfillment. 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